Enjoying Stillness

In this spinning, hectic life it is sometimes hard to even imagine slowing down enough to experience anything like stillness.

And yet, nearly all spiritual paths teach about the importance of precious moments in contemplation.

In fact, until we allow ourselves to quiet the mind and settle into the silence, it can be nearly impossible to listen to and learn from that still small voice of the Divine.

And it is from that guidance that we can learn faith, patience and hope.

“Perhaps the earth can teach us
as when everything seems dead
and later proves to be alive.”

– Pablo Neruda

Let’s stop for one second,’ wrote Pablo Neruda in his poem A Callarse, which is translated as Keeping Quiet or Keeping Still. The poem is a manifesto for the very personal and very political act of doing nothing. In it, he imagined a world that stops to catch its breath for a moment, in the way that much of the planet is currently on hiatus from the hum of its usual activity, and he pondered the ‘sudden strangeness’ that would emerge. A beautiful and touching poem about the sadness of ‘never understanding ourselves’ and how simply stopping and listening to the silence might bring us together with a new kind of wisdom.

Keeping Quiet

And now we will count to twelve
and we will all keep still.

For once on the face of the earth
let’s not speak in any language,
let’s stop for one second,
and not move our arms so much.

It would be an exotic moment
without rush, without engines,
we would all be together
in a sudden strangeness.

Fisherman in the cold sea
would not harm whales
and the man gathering salt
would not look at his hurt hands.

Those who prepare green wars,
wars with gas,
wars with fire,
victory with no survivors,
would put on clean clothes
and walk about with their brothers
in the shade, doing nothing.

What I want should not be confused
with total inactivity.
Life is what it is about,
I want no truck with death.

If we were not so single-minded
about keeping our lives moving,
and for once could do nothing,
perhaps a huge silence
might interrupt this sadness
of never understanding ourselves
and of threatening ourselves with death.

Perhaps the earth can teach us
as when everything seems dead
and later proves to be alive.

Now I’ll count up to twelve,
and you keep quiet and I will go.

Pablo Neruda (1904-1973)

Let It End, Let It Go

It seems these days that the most compelling and front-and-center lessons are all about radical acceptance and surrender. That has certainly shown up more often in this blog over the last few weeks and months.

I’ve experienced times when the world seems to have flipped over or isn’t recognizable.

The day my mother died, I remember standing in the airport after rushing home from a conference on the news that she was dying. I had just learned that she passed while I was flying home. I stood there in the Arrival pick up, weeping uncontrollably. Attracting some stares and one person who asked if she could help.

As I looked at all the traffic and all the people, I couldn’t believe they were still going about their lives as usual. How did they not recognize that the world had just disintegrated and been pieced back together in strange, unfamiliar ways?

I have had similar experiences after other great losses. The most recent one was on the morning of November 6th, when I woke up to hear that a majority of my fellow citizens had decided we needed an autocratic felon and disruptor to be our next president.

That event has undoubtedly led to this ongoing need to consider surrender and radical acceptance.

So, when I was sent this video of a speech by the remarkable and wise Brene Brown, I decided I wanted to share it here.

Let It End, Let It Hurt, Let It Heal, Let It Go: Embrace the Power of Moving On BRENE BROWN SPEECH

All Things Move On

This week, I watched a memorial for a dear friend who recently moved on to fly to new places.

I watched as the golden sun moved on further to the south and left us in the cold darkness.

I’ve witnessed the leaves letting go to move on and make soil and room for new sprouts.

I’ve heard precious stories on our End of Life Conversations podcast of so many compassionate beloveds who share about their caring for, loving, and holding humans and more than humans who move on.

This poem spoke deeply to me in this time of reflection on all that moves on but is still with us and remembering the promise of resurrection.


I’m Right Here by John Roedel

“I miss you.”
“I’m right here next to you”
“But I can’t see you.”
“Then close your eyes and feel me.”
“Oh. Oh. Oh. There you are.”

“Here I am, my love. I am here.”

your beloved
~ they aren’t gone

~ they are right here

it’s just that they have changed forms

it’s just that they were the lake that eventually became the rolling thunderhead

it’s just that they were the seed that eventually became the lush apple tree

it’s just that they were the fistful of wet clay that eventually became the cup of eternity

your beloved
~they aren’t gone

~ they are right here

and they’re holding you as you tremble

and they’re dancing in the swirling galaxies of tears that are forming in your eyes

and they’re whispering your name softly between the silent gaps of your thumping heartbeat

and they’re gently blowing on the hairs that are rising on your arms right now

your beloved
~they aren’t gone

~ they are right here

and they know that you love them still and forever

because love is an endless string of warm sunlit
memories tied between two people

because love is a circle drawn on the wall of time
in permanent red marker

because love is the act of holding hands with
another person and counting to infinity by twos

your beloved
~they aren’t gone

~ they are right here

and they are leaving love notes for you everywhere

that over and over and
in a hundred million different ways
say the exact same thing:

“we have not been separated
we have not been separated
we have not been separated”

your beloved
~they aren’t gone

~ they are right here

and they want me to tell you something:

they are
so proud
of you

~ john roedel